I Used to Hear yet I Never Listened

Stop for a moment. Disregard the way you feel when you listen to him.We tend to overthink a lot of things which leads to many unnecessary conflicts with our own self or with others. A simple statement can easily turn into an argument only because nowdays we do not know how to listen properly.

Put yourself in his shoes. Do you know what he has been through? What his story is? He didn't say I love you back. The first thing we tend to do is blaming ourselves. What did I do wrong? Why am I not pretty enough? Why can't I have him? and so on. This way of thinking is slightly self-centered. We look at our own needs and we assume that the way HE feels is necessarily related to something we did.

Now think. How many times did he tell you he just got out of a long term relationship? How often did he mention that he has trust issues? He is probably working on himself and needs time alone to grow. One needs to heal before they can establish another intimate relationship with someone else.

This was one example out of many. There is so much more to say yet I will end it now. Learning is a long and ongoing process that needs to be done one step at a time.